Knowing Your Family in Heaven · Lesson 3 of 6

Together With Them

Paul, Hebrews and Revelation — the reunion stated outright, and two words worth counting

Jesus left the question answered in principle: persons survive, they are recognised, and there is a table with named ancestors at it. The apostles had to write to people who were actually burying each other — and what they wrote is more specific than most Christians realise.

This lesson also contains the two hardest pieces of evidence in the series, and both of them are word counts.

The Passage Written for Exactly This Grief

Greek — 1 Thessalonians 4:13

Οὐ θέλομεν δὲ ὑμᾶς ἀγνοεῖν, ἀδελφοί, περὶ τῶν κοιμωμένων, ἵνα μὴ λυπῆσθε καθὼς καὶ οἱ λοιποὶ οἱ μὴ ἔχοντες ἐλπίδα.

1 Thessalonians 4:13–18 (ESV)

13But we do not want you to be uninformed, brothers, about those who are asleep, that you may not grieve as others do who have no hope. 14For since we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so, through Jesus, God will bring with him those who have fallen asleep. 15For this we declare to you by a word from the Lord, that we who are alive, who are left until the coming of the Lord, will not precede those who have fallen asleep. 16For the Lord himself will descend from heaven with a cry of command, with the voice of an archangel, and with the sound of the trumpet of God. And the dead in Christ will rise first. 17Then we who are alive, who are left, will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air, and so we will always be with the Lord. 18Therefore encourage one another with these words.

author

Paul.

date

Around AD 50 — the earliest surviving Christian document, or very nearly.

place

Written from Corinth to Thessalonica.

audience

A young congregation of Gentile converts of a few months’ standing.

occasion

Some of them had died, and the survivors were afraid the dead had missed it. They were not asking a speculative question. They were asking whether the people they had just buried would be there.

Paul’s answer is structurally a reunion. Trace the pronouns: the dead rise first; then the living are caught up ἅμα σὺν αὐτοῖς — “together with them.”

Paul could have comforted them by saying “you will be with the Lord.” He says “you will be with the Lord together with them.” The reunion of the believing dead with the believing living is not a sentimental extra that preachers added to this passage. It is the argument.

And note the grammar of grief in v.13. Paul does not write “do not grieve.” He writes that you may not grieve as those who have no hope. The comparison is the point, not the prohibition. Christian grief is not cancelled; it is given a different shape. Lesson 6 rests on this sentence.

“Then I Shall Know Fully”

Greek — 1 Corinthians 13:12

βλέπομεν γὰρ ἄρτι δι’ ἐσόπτρου ἐν αἰνίγματι, τότε δὲ πρόσωπον πρὸς πρόσωπον· ἄρτι γινώσκω ἐκ μέρους, τότε δὲ ἐπιγνώσομαι καθὼς καὶ ἐπεγνώσθην.

1 Corinthians 13:12 (ESV)

12For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known.

author

Paul, to Corinth — a fractious, gifted, competitive church.

occasion

The love chapter sits inside an argument about spiritual gifts: tongues and prophecy will pass; love will not.

ἐπιγνώσομαιepignōsomai

Paul moves from the ordinary verb ginōskō (to know) to the compounded form — knowing thoroughly, knowing right through. And the measure he gives is staggering: “even as I have been fully known” — that is, as God knows me.

Careful reading. The primary reference is knowing God, not knowing each other, and we should not pretend otherwise. But the standard Paul sets is a standard of personal, mutual, exhaustive knowing, and he sets it in a chapter whose subject is how people treat one another. If the age to come is the age in which partial knowing ends, it is not the age in which you fail to recognise your mother. The inference is ours to draw, and we say plainly that we are drawing it.
Every Family in Heaven — and a Word Worth Counting

This is the closest the New Testament comes to naming our subject directly.

Greek — Ephesians 3:14–15

Τούτου χάριν κάμπτω τὰ γόνατά μου πρὸς τὸν πατέρα, ἐξ οὗ πᾶσα πατριὰ ἐν οὐρανοῖς καὶ ἐπὶ γῆς ὀνομάζεται,

Ephesians 3:14–15 (ESV)

14For this reason I bow my knees before the Father, 15from whom every family in heaven and on earth is named,

author

Paul — or, on a common critical view, a close associate writing in his name. Pleasant Springs reports the debate and does not adjudicate it.

audience

A largely Gentile readership in Asia Minor whose great question in this letter is whether they belong.

occasion

Ephesians 2 has just argued that Gentiles are no longer “strangers and aliens” but fellow citizens and members of God’s household. Chapter 3 kneels down and prays about it.

The wordplay is in the Greek and cannot survive into English: patēr (“Father”) → patria (“father-line”). Paul kneels before the Father from whom every father-line is named.

πατριάpatriá

Not a warm generic word for “family.” It is a registry word — the word for a descent line as it appears in a list.

The Measurement
186occurrences of patriá in the Greek Old Testament

And the distribution is the whole point: 1 Chronicles 55, Numbers 53 — the two great census-and-genealogy books — plus 2 Esdras 18, 1 Esdras 12, 2 Chronicles 10, Exodus 6, Joshua(B) 5, and a scatter elsewhere. 148 of the 186 stand in Numbers, Chronicles, Ezra–Nehemiah and 1 Esdras, books that exist largely to enrol people by ancestry. This is the vocabulary of the muster roll.

3occurrences in the Greek New Testament
  1. Luke 2:4 — Joseph goes up to Bethlehem “because he was of the house and patria of David,” to be registered in a census.
  2. Acts 3:25 — “in your offspring shall all the patriai of the earth be blessed.”
  3. Ephesians 3:15 — “every patria in heaven and on earth is named.”
So when Paul says every family in heaven and on earth is named by God, he has reached for the word Israel used for a line of descent in a public register — and the only other narrative use in the New Testament is a man being enrolled by his ancestry.

What we claim: the lexical fact, which anyone can check. What we do not claim: that Paul is alluding to Luke 2 (he is not; the letters precede the Gospel), or that patria here means only biological clans (the sense is disputed; many read it of angelic and human groupings together). What stands on any reading: the God Paul kneels to is the Father who names father-lines, in heaven as well as on earth. Descent groups exist in heaven as things God calls by name. That is the closest Scripture comes to saying it.
The Register in Heaven

Greek — Hebrews 12:23

καὶ ἐκκλησίᾳ πρωτοτόκων ἀπογεγραμμένων ἐν οὐρανοῖς, καὶ κριτῇ θεῷ πάντων, καὶ πνεύμασι δικαίων τετελειωμένων,

Hebrews 12:22–24 (ESV)

22But you have come to Mount Zion and to the city of the living God, the heavenly Jerusalem, and to innumerable angels in festal gathering, 23and to the assembly of the firstborn who are enrolled in heaven, and to God, the judge of all, and to the spirits of the righteous made perfect, 24and to Jesus, the mediator of a new covenant, and to the sprinkled blood that speaks a better word than the blood of Abel.

author

Unknown, and the church has said so since Origen.

audience

Jewish Christians under pressure to go back — the letter’s recurring warning.

occasion

Chapter 11 has just walked through the faithful dead by name; chapter 12 opens with them as “so great a cloud of witnesses” and then tells the readers where they have already arrived.

A Second Measurement

The word translated “enrolled” is apographō — the census verb. Every occurrence of it and its noun in the Greek New Testament:

  1. Luke 2:1 — Caesar’s decree that all the world be registered
  2. Luke 2:2 — the first registration
  3. Luke 2:3 — all went to be registered
  4. Luke 2:5 — Joseph, to be registered with Mary
  5. Acts 5:37 — “the days of the census”
  6. Hebrews 12:23 — the assembly of the firstborn, enrolled in heaven
Six occurrences. Five of them are a Roman tax roll. The sixth is a roll of names kept in heaven.

And note the convergence with patria above: Luke 2:1–5 uses both words — the census verb and patria — in one scene, to register one man by his ancestry. The two New Testament texts that speak of family and enrolment in heaven each reach for one of the two words Luke uses for an earthly registration by descent. We report that as a lexical observation, not as a claim of literary dependence.

And the phrase that follows: “the spirits of the righteous made perfect” — a perfect passive participle, having been completed. The dead in Christ are not described as diminished, dormant or absorbed. They are described as finished — and as people you have come to, in the present tense.

Hebrews 11:39–40 (ESV)

39And all these, though commended through their faith, did not receive what was promised, 40since God had provided something better for us, that apart from us they should not be made perfect.

The consequence

The generations are not finished separately. Hebrews will not let the faithful dead be perfected without the living, or the living without them. Completion is mutual.

The Dead Who Speak, and the World They Get

Greek — Revelation 6:10

καὶ ἔκραξαν φωνῇ μεγάλῃ λέγοντες· Ἕως πότε, ὁ δεσπότης ὁ ἅγιος καὶ ἀληθινός, οὐ κρίνεις καὶ ἐκδικεῖς τὸ αἷμα ἡμῶν ἐκ τῶν κατοικούντων ἐπὶ τῆς γῆς;

Revelation 6:9–11 (ESV)

9When he opened the fifth seal, I saw under the altar the souls of those who had been slain for the word of God and for the witness they had borne. 10They cried out with a loud voice, “O Sovereign Lord, holy and true, how long before you will judge and avenge our blood on those who dwell on the earth?” 11Then they were each given a white robe and told to rest a little longer, until the number of their fellow servants and their brothers should be complete, who were to be killed as they themselves had been.

author

John, exiled on Patmos.

audience

Seven real congregations in Asia Minor, some of them already burying martyrs.

occasion

A church asking how long.

For our question, notice the ordinary things. The dead speak. They speak in the first person plural — our blood. They are aware of time (“how long?”), aware of the living, and they are told to wait until the number of their fellow servants and their brothers is complete.

They are conscious, individuated, and still in relationship — and the thing they are waiting on is other people.

Revelation 7:9–10 (ESV)

9After this I looked, and behold, a great multitude that no one could number, from every nation, from all tribes and peoples and languages, standing before the throne and before the Lamb, clothed in white robes, with palm branches in their hands, 10and crying out with a loud voice, “Salvation belongs to our God who sits on the throne, and to the Lamb!”

Revelation 7:15–17 (ESV)

15“Therefore they are before the throne of God, and serve him day and night in his temple; and he who sits on the throne will shelter them with his presence. 16They shall hunger no more, neither thirst anymore; the sun shall not strike them, nor any scorching heat. 17For the Lamb in the midst of the throne will be their shepherd, and he will guide them to springs of living water, and God will wipe away every tear from their eyes.”

Note that the great multitude is still described by tribe and people and language — the categories of descent are not erased in the vision; they are gathered.

Where the Reunion Happens

The destination is not a disembodied heaven. It is a remade world.

Greek — Revelation 21:4

καὶ ἐξαλείψει πᾶν δάκρυον ἐκ τῶν ὀφθαλμῶν αὐτῶν, καὶ ὁ θάνατος οὐκ ἔσται ἔτι· οὔτε πένθος οὔτε κραυγὴ οὔτε πόνος οὐκ ἔσται ἔτι. τὰ πρῶτα ἀπῆλθαν.

Revelation 21:3–4 (ESV)

3And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, “Behold, the dwelling place of God is with man. He will dwell with them, and they will be his people, and God himself will be with them as their God. 4He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.”

This is Isaiah’s promise (Isaiah 65:17; 66:22) brought home, and Revelation 21:4 is Isaiah 25:8 — the verse whose two text forms we compared in Lesson 1 — fulfilled.

A distinction worth keeping. Jewish and early Christian writers held two pictures of the new creation: renewal of this world (2 Baruch 32:6; 57:2; 4 Ezra 7:75; Jubilees 1:29; 1 Enoch 45:3–5 — all non-canonical) and replacement after dissolution (2 Peter 3:10–13). Duane Watson’s survey concludes Revelation 21:1 is most widely read as the replacement tradition (Anchor Yale Bible Dictionary 4:1094–95). Pleasant Springs holds historic premillennialism and does not need to settle renewal-versus-replacement to say the thing that matters: the promised end is a real world, with real bodies, and God living in it with his people. A reunion needs somewhere to happen, and Scripture gives it somewhere.

And on the word “heaven” itself: in Scripture it covers both the sky-and-cosmos and the dwelling place of God, and Israel insisted that even heaven “cannot contain” him (1 Kings 8:27) (Mitchell Reddish, Anchor Yale Bible Dictionary 3:90–91). When this series says “in heaven,” it means “with God” — and the final scene is God coming down.

For Discussion
1.1 Thessalonians was written because people were afraid the dead had missed it. What is the modern version of that fear in your own family?
2.Paul says “together with them,” not just “with the Lord.” Why do you think he added those two words?
3.Heaven keeps a register, and the word for it is the word for a tax census. What does it do to you to think of being on a list by name?
4.Hebrews says the dead are not perfected apart from us. What obligation does that put on the living?
5.The souls under the altar ask “how long?” Is it a comfort or a shock that the dead in Revelation are still waiting?

Pleasant Springs Church — Discipleship School